We have already discussed these dreams, yet I kept having them.  Since I have been waiting on a reply on here though I haven't had any.  I guess my mind has been occupied waiting on an answer.  Thank you so much, maybe I will get a full nights sleep!

BINGO!  Good call, Tiger!

I guess too that one person that I know is going out with a man that is married and I was not raised that way.  I do not believe in that.  That is adultry, and I guess that is one reason I am scared to get married, it seems everyone is cheating on everyone, and no tries.  We are planning a wedding, so maybe that is why I dreamed it, I don't know.  All I DO know is that it was VERY unsettling to me!

Hi cthroughu,

Let me start off with giving you a mental hug.  You're getting married and planning a wedding?  Congratulations!!

May I first start off with saying that obviously your dreams mean something, but understand it does not necessarily mean it is a prophesy of things that are happening or things to come. It could mean a number of things and for all you know the man in your dreams may play the part of your fiance, but may have nothing to do with your fiance at all. It does have something to do with about you feel about a particular situation, where you just don't trust something.

Every woman I have spoken with has had nightmare after nightmare before their wedding while they were planning it. As for me, I went into with the attitude if something goes wrong it is beyond my control. I had two dreams, one was my wedding dress was torn in the front and my other dream was my mother held up my wedding because she was dilly-dallying and late. Both happened, but my niece ripped my wedding dress while she was sitting on my lap during pictures before the wedding and I noticed it while I was on the alter. It was a slight tear... no big deal and I didn't care when I noticed it. And it wasn't my mother who held up my wedding, it was my step-mother who took her time getting to the church that held up my wedding. It was a rare case of yes, my dreams came true - not all of them did. I didn't care about anything because I went in with the attitude things are going to happen and NOTHING is going to ruin our day.

So having dreams about your wedding day before a wedding while planning is very normal. And I suspect that with your last post that this woman you know who is seeing a married man and how you feel that most marriages nowadays don't last and a lot end with infidelity is weighing very heavy on your heart.

Try not to stress yourself out more than you already are. It's stressful enough finding the right hall, the perfect band or dj, the perfect table clothes and dishes, picking the menu's, the perfect photographer and types of packages, the floral arrangements, the gown, the fittings, the bridesmaid's dresses, the gifts for guests, the gifts for the bridal party, etc... etc.. etc... You have enough on your plate and on top of it you are trying to work, live your life and fit all of the functions you normally go to and do on top of everything else. It's a lot of work.  Two suggestions for you... 1. get a comfortable pair of shoes because your feet will be killing you by the end of the day (wear them for a day in your home and see how your feet feel in the evening), or get two pairs of shoes and a dress that is cut to accommodate both. You won't be sitting much that day. This is what I did and I was very glad I did it. 2. Keep reminding yourself that things may happen that aren't a part of your plan... don't let it get to you, don't let it ruin your day, enjoy yourself regardless.

Lastly, and meditate on this.. think about it please, I implore you. There are no guarantees on anything in this life except that one day we will die. What I am saying is although you may worry about infidelity in the future, you are concerned about a dream and it's meaning (and as I said, freaky dreams are normal when planning a wedding) you're focused on something that hasn't happened. Cross that bridge if ever it presents itself to you when you get to it, but not before.  That's it. Enjoy this time... all this planning feels like it takes forever and when the wedding day comes, it's over before you know it.

If you need to talk, I'm here