Good advice, Vishwas!

 Brinkglue, I did wonder whether it was a simple fear of the physics of sex itself, but I thought it was so obvious, that you wouldn't have needed an explanation!  Yes, babe, it would very likely be you saying to yourself - "I'm scared!  Will it be painful?  You hear such stories, etc.  But presumably one day I will have to do this!"

Of course, the main thing with sexual experience, is simply to be with a loving partner, who cares about you, and with whom you experience a desire for sex (not just a feeling of "I ought to, because he wants to"). Then you can both "go at your own pace", and learn together.

This would be a good fear to "release".  Ask yourself: if sex was so appalling for women, why would any of us choose to do it?  (And loads choose, no one is making them!)

Perhaps this is coming from a learned viewpoint that sex is something that women endure for the sake of men?  Because it isn't!

Best wishes,
Tish

Don't be scared! All in the first relationship feel scared! I was god damn nervous when I did it (16yo is actualy old for the people in Brazil mine was with 15) and you actually feel strange... my girlfriend really bleed this is something that happens but you will only stop been scared when you already pass it, got it? The first is never the best!

And actually not making sex would be a mistake for humans, my mom is a doctor/medic and she says its needed to be done to keep healthy, just dont get prugnet so easily!

 You are right, Marco!

But for women the experience varies hugely, and heavy bleeding like that is uncommon.  Unless you have a particularly strong hymen (inner membrane), it is usually broken long before you first have sex due to normal physical activies.  (Babe, if you can use inner "sanitary protection" - tampons, you should not have a problem.  If you haven't used these, then try.)

One of my friends' first experience (at age 16): she had no pain, no bleeding, just lots of enjoyment as if it wasn't the first time at all.  Her boyfriend couldn't really believe it was her first time, but it was.

The other main thing that causes a problem is simply fear: which results in your muscles tensing up so much that it is painful, and you just can't ...  That's why you need to overcome this fear, or it may bring about its own confirmation.  Try to remember: for the majority of women, it's a very positive experience - loving sex.  Why should you need to worry, then?